What is it going to take

for these women to leave me alone...

On Monday morning - the 21st of May - i contacted Simon Buckingham in an attempt to put an end to this madness. This phone call was followed up with an email advising that i was willing to remove anything that Madeleine Flannagan and Debbie Brown took offence to from my blog in exchange for them dropping their proceedings against me.

Despite me having never named either of those women on my blog and only referring to them a couple of times when writing about things that had occurred in my life prior to being served legal papers - i was willing to do whatever it took in order to be able to go back to focusing on my studies and my family rather than this madness.

It took Simon Buckingham until Thursday to reply to that offer. On Thursday morning he advised that they were considering my offer.

At midday on Friday - my last day to submit any defence or affidavit in my defence - Simon Buckingham finally replied and advised that his clients were unwilling to negotiate. I assume that they left it this long to get back to me in the hope that i would not file anything in my own defence.

I spent all of Friday afternoon - when i was sick with the flu and should have been in lectures - rushing to put together an affidavit in my defence and travelling in to the city in order to have it sworn and filed. I gave a copy of this affidavit to Simon Buckingham.

At 7:40 pm on Friday night i received an email from Madeleine Flannagan asking me to get my partner to phone her if i would still consider settling.

I replied to her within 15 minutes again advising her of the stress that this was causing in my life, of my opinion that this situation was not a good look for any of us and of my desire to put an end to the madness.

On Saturday morning at approximately 10:00 am my partner phoned Madeleine. The conversation appears to have gone nowhere. Madeleine made excuses for Debbie Brown's behaviour by advising my partner that she suffers from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and attempted to further intimidate me by stating that "the Herald on Sunday had phoned Debbie asking her what she wants printed this week". 

This conversation was cut short when Madeleine's phone ran out of battery.

About 10:30 a man arrived at my home to serve me more papers. These papers consisted of a decision made in regards to another attempt by Simon Buckingham. Madeleine Flannagan and Debbie Brown to get an injunction preventing me from writing about this very upsetting experience that i am going through.

Their attempt to get an injunction had failed. Again.

Shortly after i received those papers - i received an email from Madeleine Flannagan advising me that i am at risk of being in contempt of court for writing about the lies that they had submitted in their affidavit or these proceedings at all.

I found this odd - since Madeleine had herself blogged about this in the previous week.

I took this email as more threats. I did not respond to this email.

At about 3:30pm after receiving the above email and not responding i received another email from Madeleine. Because of the substance of the previous email - i chose not to read what Madeleine had written in her most recent email. It was my belief that her emails were an attempt to intimidate and harass me and that reading them would upset me and inflame the situation.

I responded to her again advising her that i was willing to remove whatever she wanted if her and her friends would just leave me alone.

Madeleine's response to this email from me advised me that if i was willing to do whatever they want in order to make this awful issue go away then i should read her previous email to me.

So i read it.

I then came to the conclusion that my first instinct to not read it was correct. This email was full of delusional lies and more of the poor Debbie is a victim mentality that i have put up with for the past 18 months from these women.

This email is too long to copy on to here in it's entirety however here are the terms that these women wanted me to agree to in order for Madeleine to stop using her legal qualification in order to harass me, and for Debbie Brown to just leave me alone.

Further down in the email Madeleine advises me that i have damaged these women's careers, that they are a week away from ending this and that they "will win". 

I wanted to respond to Madeleine and ask her if she or Debbie Brown take any responsibility for any damage that had been done to them - considering they filed a very dishonest sworn affidavit and legal proceedings based on absolute lies against me. 

I wanted to ask her if considering i had only referred to her twice on my blog in the past 3 years - once in relation to a freedom of speech debate that her and i had where i never named her and once in reference to an annoying woman that i had once met who 5 minutes after meeting her chewed my ear off for 3 hours about a car accident that she had been involved in years earlier - neither of which times i had named her - if she thought that maybe - just maybe - her decision to believe her friend's lies and become involved in such pathetic and dishonest legal proceedings are actually what might be hurting her career. 

I wanted to ask if she thought it might have been wise considering i had never named either of them and no one knew who i was referring to in the couple of instances that i had referred to my experiences with them - to just not read my blog - and that their own choice to spend 18 months obsessing over every single word that i have written, then serve me with extremely dishonest legal proceedings and then go to the media about those proceedings might - just MIGHT - be what has damaged their careers - if any damage has been done. 

I wanted to ask her why she considered me writing about experiences that had occurred in my life to be defamation - when i never named either of them. 

I wanted to ask her why she thought it was ok for a website to be set up that blamed the residents of Christchurch for the earthquakes and why saying that Christchurch is full of sodomisers, prostitutes and homosexuals was not defamatory and should be protected speech under the Bill of Rights - but me describing an experience that i had one night in a pub  is harassment, defamatory, and not relative to free speech. 

I wanted to ask her if she or Debbie Brown ever actually take responsibility for their actions. 

I didn't though. I just responded with this; 

I could not believe that these women would be stupid enough to think that i would agree to more than what even a judge would make me do even if they do win this case. 

Because i have not lied about either of these women and because i have only written the truth in relation to everything that has been going on for the past three weeks - i will not bow down to their demands and continued harassment and bullying of me by lying to the world and publishing on my blog that anything that i have said is untrue. 

It is not untrue and it will be a cold day in hell before these women bully or harass me into lying on my blog and telling the world that anything that i have said has been a lie. 

This conversation upset me.  I am sick with the flu and was just wanting to spend a peaceful weekend with my family. The fact that Madeleine had contacted me on the pretence of settling this matter then took that opportunity to harass me further - during time that i was spending with family - upset me very much. 

I attempted to put an end to the upset again and requested that she not contact me again. 

She did though. She just couldn't help herself. 

I did not open this email. I did not read it. 

I responded to Madeleine Flannagan and requested again that she leave me alone. This time i copied Simon Buckingham on the email in the hope that he would advise her to respect my request. 

I had hoped that would be the end of this upset for now, and that i could get back to studying, spending time with my family and recovering from this awful flu that i have. 

I have come to the conclusion that the worst that can happen next week is that by some miracle in their favour - a judge would not see this for exactly what it is - and would award them a restraining order against me and i would have to remove whatever the judge says i have to remove from my blog. 

Big deal. 

I have never harassed these women in the first place so it will be no skin off my nose if i am prevented from doing so in the future.  

I feel that if that happens then hopefully Debbie Brown will finally feel some form of vindication that she is obviously desperate for after what she perceives as my rejection of her when i ended our friendship. I hope that Madeleine would also feel vindicated after i referred to her anonymously in relation to a couple of experiences that i had. I hope that if they win they will finally - after 18 months - move on, forget about me and leave me alone. 

That is all i want. If i have to lose a court case for that to happen then so be it. 

That wasn't the end of  Madeleine's attentions this weekend though.  

This morning Madeleine Flannagan chose to continue this harassment by text messaging my partner. 

I have responded to that text message from Madeleine. 

You could not make this stuff up - it is that crazy. 

Not only have i not harassed these women - i think it is very clear who the actual harassers and bullies are in this whole darn saga. 

This is Single White Female stuff that i have been dealing with from Debbie Brown for the past 18 months and now because Madeleine Flannagan has the poor judgement to believe every word that comes out of Debbie's mouth - i am having to deal with being harassed by a lawyer. 

I have had enough. 

I thought i had left the crazies behind in my past but i knew P addicts who had more common sense, morals, better judgement and who were more honest than these people. 

I know God will not give me anything that i cannot handle. I just wish that he did not trust me so much.