Synergy is when the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. And creating positive synergy means having the right people, in the right place, at the right time, focusing on the right goal.
After World War II, Chester Nimitz, Chief of US Naval Operations, wanted to keep public interest in naval aviation alive. As a result the Blue Angels Navy Flight Demonstration Squadron was created and performed its first exhibition within the year. To this day the team has clear objectives. They select only qualified candidates who consistently operate at peak performance. After being carefully screened, a pilot must receive sixteen votes from the existing members. If one votes no, the candidate is out of the running. No reasons or explanations required - that's the level of trust and respect the members have for one another's judgment.
As a Blue Angel your teammates become like your family, and when a new member is enlisted you're entrusting him with your life. Making the squad isn't a one-shot deal either. You're responsible for playing your part, demonstrating your value and pursuing excellence on a daily basis. You have to earn the right to wear the crest. Nothing short of total commitment is accepted.
So, would you qualify to be a Blue Angel? Are you a sole-trader or a team player? Are you loyal and reliable? When the chips are down, can others rely on you to put their interests ahead of your own?
My family does not have much "Synergy" these past couple of days. It has been me...against the kids, ever since Billy brought that bloody $2000.00 laptop home.
The more i think about it, the angrier i get. My mother would have taken him out shopping with the sole intention of letting him do that, without telling me first. He would have had to have pay slips with him, and proof of his address etc etc...which he would not have normally had with him...unless he was planning on purchasing something that he could not afford right now, and paying it off.
Every time i think about it...my blood pressure goes up. I swear i can feel it actually rising!
Every time i say something about it, all three of the kids, gang up on me. The girls have taken Billy's side regarding this matter and have delighted in telling me that it is "his money and he can spend it however he wants." ...and that is just the thing...it isn't HIS money! Because he had no money to spend!
They don't seem to understand that, and i am getting very frustrated with the arguments that this issue has caused, in my home over the last couple of days. My mother, would no doubt be loving it, and most likely knew the tension that her doing this would cause in my home...when she did it.
It is done now. There is nothing that i can do about it. I am just trying not to think about it, because every time i think about it...i feel the need to comment, and talk to Billy about it...and that just leads to another big argument.
Yesterday, i just wanted to drop all three of them off to Nick. Nick, by the way, is completely on my side when it comes to this issue. When i text him and told him about my mother taking Billy to HP a $2000.00 laptop his response to my text was a simple - WTF!?!?!?!?! - So anyway, i just wanted to drop them all off to him for a couple of days yesterday. But i couldn't.
Life is hard for single mother, who's children are all twice her size. I could not get even one of them, in the car...let alone all three. haha...Gotta laugh. If i didn't, i might cry. Crying is not much fun! I am looking on the bright side. I should take it as a good sign that when i said i wanted all three of them to go to their Dad's place...they all ran away from me and refused to get in the car.
They love me...really...they do. ;)
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So reluctant to comment on parenting issues but for what it is worth if your son is working he should be paying board.
There probably isn't a lot of point in talking through the issue with your mother but I would certainly be looking to do that with your son.
I would approach it from the perspective of how tough the economic outlook is for NZ and that a job can disappear overnight. Who will repay the HP if that happens ? I have only ever bought on HP once and that was for a lounge suite. I hated the whole experience I ended up paying far more than I would have if I paid cash due to interest rates.
Hopefully he will learn from this.
It also occures to me you should be able to return the computer I think there is a 7 day cooling off period on these purchases. That probably wouldn't make very popular but it is your house and you make the rules particularly if you are nor getting any board.
Oh I read this somewhere
"I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much." ~ Mother Teresa
:)bosesi
Wellll i have made every mistake that it possible to make when it comes to money, and it was my love of material possessions and money that initially landed me in the horrible situation that i got myself into.
It is just so important to me that my children don't make the same mistakes that i made...and this $2000 laptop is just reminiscent of how i purchased my first car with no deposit. I paid twice as much as i should have for it, the interest rate was mental, and i ended up tied down to payments for 3 years and ended up with nothing at the end of it.
Laptops, like cars, do not increase in value. Never borrow money for something that will only depreciate.
Re the board situation - why do i feel guilty when i think about it?
arrrrghhhhh
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