Hmmmm...so yeahhhhh...ummm...i am sure that there is SOMEONE out there that reads my blog that needed this message tonight - cause i have no idea why i keep getting marriage, and relationship advice via my email.Entering into a committed relationship is in fact a spiritual journeythat we undertake with another person.
Loving and committing to another person is a spiritual process whether it involves a wedding or any other type of commitment ceremony. Often when we enter into a relationship, we allow our emotions to lead us forward without thinking more deeply about what true commitment involves. If we can understand that sharing our lives with another person is not just based on love but also on the hard work of being able to compromise and enter into a dialogue with them, then we are much more likely to find the key to having a successful relationship with our partners. So many people have not experienced a loving relationship between their own parents and therefore have no role model of what love should feel like or look like.
Many of us have been exposed to the idea that love should be romantic and sweep us off our feet. While this is a natural part of any relationship, the true test of our love comes from our willingness to explore this world with another person; to not only share in the delights that we encounter but also to negotiate the bumps in the road together. Generally this often takes the form of a mutual exchange of ideas, but because any relationship is based on the needs and experiences of two people, we might also face a certain amount of misunderstanding. Learning to be open and receptive to our partners and to treat their wants and ideas with respect can help us navigate even the most difficult situations. One way to do this is to take a deep breath, holding our partner in a space of love, and allow ourselves to listen fully with our hearts to what they have to say. Should this become difficult to do, we can also turn toward people whose relationships we admire for advice or guidance. Knowing that there are resources out there to help us and being up for exploring them with our partner will only serve to deepen and strengthen our relationship.
Entering into a committed relationship is in fact a spiritual journey that we undertake with another person. By being able to love and care for someone else with an open heart, we will find that we can reach a greater level of personal transformation, evolving along our path and learning powerful lessons about ourselves that we might not otherwise be able to do on our own. ~ The Daily OM
I need a "For future reference" category, i think, because i am a bit over, analysing everything that i have done wrong in the past...and being reminded of how badly things got stuffed up.
I have no desire to commit anything to anyone, at this point in time. I think it is also fair to say that Toys R Us is history, for good. He phoned me to apologise for the 3am booty call. I made it pretty clear, how unimpressed i was...and things did not go well from there! haha...if i remember correctly, his last words to me were "Get f*cked" hahahhaa
In all fairness to him, i was not polite. I think my exact words were " I am not sure if it is an age thing or a drunk thing, but i can't recall your behaviour ever being normal, when i was 29, or a drunk so find someone else that will find 3am booty calls flattering, because, i don't." haha I surprise myself at how good i have become at communicating my feelings these days!
I much prefer the honesty that "Get f*cked" was, than the slimy and greasy "I miss you and feel like something is missing when you aren't with me, i love you" words of the previous day. I am VERY grateful that i listened to my intuition, and warning bells, regarding him. I don't have time in my life, for anymore regrets.
Thank you gut / intuition for saving me from another regret.
On that note..we left Christmas in the Park early. Jorgia and her friend, and i, actually, were a bit bored, and cold, and thought we would make a move before everyone else did, and we got stuck in the traffic. Remind me next year to dress warmer...and not wear a skirt. Sitting on a blanket, on the grass is not much fun, or very comfortable, in a skirt
I am trying to wait up, to make sure that the older girls all get home on the last bus from town...but my eyes are getting heavy!
|Christmas in the Park 2010 - before we got cold and bored!|